The Psychology Of A Selfie

The Psychology Of A Selfie

It’s a relatively new concept, the selfie, born from the desire to be the one in front of the camera when no one else is there to press the button. It’s not something I’ve ever felt the need to do before, I’m much more comfortable being the photographer as opposed to the model. In fact, it’s a term I’ve always found annoying.
There’s endless photos on social media of pouting girls, taken at angles that hide your double chin or other imperfections that are brutally obvious in natural day light. I get that we all have the desire to have lasting images of ourselves to look back on when we’re wrinkly and old, but I can’t help wondering, just how much is a selfie are true portrayal of how others see you? Fair enough if you’re incredibly short and spend your life looking up, at an angle, to the world of giants that engulf you. Or if you have a condition that requires you to permanently suck in your cheeks and push out your lips. But for the average Tom, Dick or Harry, the world sees you at eye level, even smiling, so why not just take photos of how we’ll be remembered by everyone else and know that’s how you really looked?
Because a selfies is not for everyone else, it’s a photo of you, for yourself.
No one else, just you.

To look back on and think  wow! Didn’t I look good that day.

Ok, so now I get it!
If it makes you feel special, if only for a moment, then snap away.
We all need a little boost now and then, and if that’s how you want to look back and remember yourself, so be it.

I’m going to look back and see me smiling.

At an angle, from above.

With no double chin.

melfie Mum in a nutshell

Californian Mum in London



  1. 6th January 2015 / 10:02 pm

    Gorgeous pic and great post. I know what you mean about selfies (though I am a fan of the above head/hide the double chin). I feel like youngsters get taught how to pose and pout, or else spend hours in front of their mirrors. But I am definitely a fan of the mummy selfie. Thank you for joining in and linking up!

    • 7th January 2015 / 1:32 pm

      I’m only jealous of their young good looks and wrinkle free skin (and ability to take a decent selfie!) I DO, however, love Melfies!

  2. 7th January 2015 / 11:38 am

    I totally understand your annoyance at the term Selfie and them being splashed all over Social Media. I think this is a great linky for ladies like us who don’t usually get in front of the camera. This is a lovely photo of you all. I’m glad you didn’t suck your cheeks in though 😉

    • 7th January 2015 / 12:32 pm

      I just look like a gold fish when i do it, i haven’t quite perfected the selfie pose yet!

  3. 7th January 2015 / 10:28 pm

    Selfies are often the only way I get to be in the pictures with me little ones!

    • 7th January 2015 / 10:31 pm

      Im the same, thats why i love the monthly melfie, otherwise there would be no photos of me and my boys.

  4. Jenny
    8th January 2015 / 8:42 am

    Ahh what beautiful selfie it is too! I love selfies with the kids. My three year old calls them family selfies and asks us to take them numerous times a day. I was always the same the one behind the camera but its nice to have memories with them as well in front of it. Great post. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. #sharewithme

    • 8th January 2015 / 1:14 pm

      Thanks Jenny. I’m taking more selfies with my children as I have none of me & my older boys when they were little.

  5. 8th January 2015 / 5:23 pm

    I take the photos, I’m not in them. Although maybe I need to get in front of the camera once in a while and take a feel selfies #sharewithme

    • 8th January 2015 / 7:28 pm

      Come join the Monthly Mummy Melfie to make sure you take at least one a month of you and your children! (there’s a click badge on my post to take toy to the blog)

  6. 8th January 2015 / 9:41 pm

    I hate selfies too, but more so because I know I just don’t look good in them haha!! I have been trying to get in more photos but not being hugely successful. I love your photo!!

  7. 9th January 2015 / 8:06 am

    Before when the camera still have film I am already doing this selfie thing as I am shy to ask anyone to take photos of me =P

    Selfie photos as important. Being in a photo with your kids are special as it doesn’t come by often (at least for me).

    Love your baby’s expression in your melfie #sharewithme

    • 9th January 2015 / 9:44 am

      Absolutel Merlinda. I’d never have the guts to ask someone to take a photo of me.

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