If you need me, I’ll be here, sitting on the fence.

If you need me, I’ll be here, sitting on the fence.

So many events have gone on this week which have pulled my opinions and thoughts in all directions, and while I’ve taken the time to listen to each side, there really only one place for me to be and that’s sitting on the fence.

And before you ask, it’s not as uncomfortable as you’d think.

I’ve not always been a fence sitter, quite the opposite in fact. My teenage years were some of my most opinionated ever, but one thing which came with the wisdom of age and hind-site was the ability to take myself away from all the hype and weigh up both sides of the story.

A knack of biting my tongue and letting those with stronger opinions say their bit, without a fear of me judging or implying they were right or wrong. Because in my little mind, there is always a place for those who are willing to take them selves out if the equation and observe from a distance, weighing up the pros and cons, wrongs and right and take their time in seeing how things should or shouldn’t be.

Please don’t get me wrong, this isn’t about me waving the white flag and championing a world of peace,

make love, not war, lets all live in harmony

Aside from being an awesome, kick ass idea, the reality is that the world does needs people who feel strong enough to debate their side, make a stand for change. Society feeds off those with enough information to share, to help the undecided.

That’s great, it truly is.

But what I don’t want, is to be party to strongly worded arguments, anger, hatred and finger-pointing.

Where lies and accusations are fired to help a cause.

Because while you’re over here, sitting on your fence, keeping a dignified silence, you get a good view of the ugly side of life unfolding before your eyes. And being the fence sitter gives you the opportunity to help diffuse that anger bubbling up around you. The negotiator and pacifier in the proverbial shit storm brewing.

As sometimes, just sometimes, it’s with this ability to stand back and observe both sides that you’re truly able to see what should be happening for the best.

So if I’m ever quiet, or missing at a time when everyone else has a lot to say

You’ll find me sitting, over here, on my, safe, splinter-free fence.

I'm a fence sitter, it's a position I often take, it's not the cords way, its just a slower way to reaching an idea and weighing up the pros and cons.

I'm a fence sitter, it's a position I often take, it's not the cords way, its just a slower way to reaching an idea and weighing up the pros and cons. and seeing both sides to an argument. This c s lewis quote sums it up perfectly

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  1. Danielle
    26th June 2016 / 9:51 am

    Love this I have to admit I’m a total fence sitter too and never speak up,but it’s so true you do need strong people who won’t be that fence sitter and will have the strength and courage to speak up great post xx

  2. 26th June 2016 / 10:46 am

    I hear you, in fact I could probably join you on your fence. I have made my voice heard and done what I thought was right when I made my decision. But now, I will not take part in all the bickering and fighting. The fence is the best place to be. Move over a bit 😉

  3. 26th June 2016 / 8:00 pm

    Good point . I think it’s important to be able to listen to both sides of an argument and even sometimes be open to having your mind changed. Sometimes people are just plain wrong though !

  4. 27th June 2016 / 10:41 am

    I have an opinion, I voted and I stand by my vote as I spent a long time researching it. What I hate is all this fighting and name calling. There is no need. One side was always going to be disappointed – I cannot watch all the doom and gloom predictions, no one knows what is going to happen next

  5. 27th June 2016 / 11:17 pm

    I am a fence sitter as well. It is quite a nice place to be right now, letting everyone else jostle to be heard. I did what I thought was right, no-one will ever know which way I went however hard they try. I just want it to all settle down now so we can get on with letting this Phoenix rise without being hindered and held down.

  6. 27th June 2016 / 11:37 pm

    lovely pictures but I am afraid I never sit on fences as I always end up falling one side or or the other.

  7. 28th June 2016 / 5:42 pm

    If I say you’re probably right does that make me one too? I usually end up with an opinion but quite often after a time of consideration.

  8. Christine
    28th June 2016 / 7:58 pm

    It’s very mature and intelligent to say you’re sitting on the fence! I wish more people had done that instead of shouting opinions that let’s face it they probably couldn’t back up with facts at all.

    • 28th June 2016 / 10:44 pm

      thanks Christine. So many opinions flying around I thought I’d keep mine to myself!

  9. 2nd July 2016 / 12:57 pm

    Like you I voted and I’m proud that we live in a democratic political system that let’s us do that. I do wish that some people had stayed on the fence rather than voting based on bigotry and a lack of understanding of the implications. It’s very telling that the #1 Google search the next day was ‘what happens when you leave the EU.’ Thanks for joining up at #sharethejoy lovely x

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