The Sibling Age Gap, Is There A Right One?

The Sibling Age Gap, Is There A Right One?

I sometimes wonder if I’ve done the right thing leaving such a big age gap between my kids?

It was always planned and down to a  case of enjoying their company as toddlers and babies so much, I never felt rushed into adding another child into the mix. Instead I chose to savour the moment and invest as much as I could into those first few years without having to share my time. That was my idea and it worked, just fine.

There were so many pros as well as cons in having my large gap between babies. I loved that I was defying the norm and rewriting the rules. I’d never been one for following the crowds, call it the rebel in me, or simply thinking out of the box and it’s quite entertaining watching people work out our family dynamics,

yes, they are all ours,

no he’s not a champagne baby


yes, they all have the same father!

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I’ve answered them all.

But one thing which I’ve started to notice recently is how much more grown up my littlest boy has become and how quickly my baby is growing up. His words, his mannerisms and his understanding, sometimes way beyond his years. There’s no denying he’s a little boy in a grown up world.

So my question is, should I have had another to keep him company? Will those 10 years between this lively little one and his brothers mean he’ll spend most of his childhood living like an only child?

You see I have theses moments of worry, have I done it all wrong?

But then I look at the cheeky, happy little chap he’s become and I’m reminded, as long as he’s loved, as long as he’s cared for and as long as he’s happy, there will never be a right or wrong way to decide how many children make a family or what the ideal age gap should be.

What’s important is that they have that family, big or small, only child or not, they’ve just got to be loved.

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  1. 3rd July 2016 / 11:51 pm

    We have four year age gap and for us its perfect x

    • 4th July 2016 / 11:13 pm

      That’s the gap between my older 2. I notice they’re not close now but hopefully they’ll get it back when they’re older

  2. 8th July 2016 / 9:27 pm

    I am the other way around I have a 10 year gap between my eldest and middle child and then only 14 months between my middle and youngest. Sometimes I love the big age gap and sometimes I love the small age gap, although both can be so very hard at times. xx

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