“Sleep is not issue, unless it’s an issue.”
Brilliant words and a piece of advice my health visitor once said to me. Expecting her to offer some well meaning advice, which I knew I wouldn’t be able to follow, she astounded me with quite the opposite.
It wasn’t an issue as in my mind, babies did wake up in the night for various reasons – cold, hungry, lonely or just because, and being prepared for the night wakings, as brief but as regular they were, wasn’t an issue.
In my mind, when you’re prepared for something you resisted it less. And yet, I’m always a little apprehensive to admit my toddler still wakes at night.
But it’s not an issue.
I cuddle or feed him and he goes straight back off. That’s the beauty of co sleeping, a subject which attracts lots of opinions. It’s not for everyone and I respect that. I had a formula for a good nights sleep; co sleeping was our plan
It works for us, and it’s not an issue.
I’m not a fan of controlled crying, never have been, never will. If my boy cries, I comfort him. Sadness or despair in a child rocks me to the core. Childhood should be a time of happiness, a time to build happy adults. So when my boy lets me know he’s sad or needs me, I do what I can to cheer him up.
It’s just not an issue.
There’ll may come a day when my boy will need comfort and I won’t be there to give it, but I know that the cuddles and responsive care I’ve practiced will make up for it. The foundations of love and cuddles will let him know all’s good, he can cope, he has a mamma who loves him.
And it won’t be an issue.