How I Really Feel About Being A Mum To Three Boys

How I Really Feel About Being A Mum To Three Boys

I never imagined I’d be a mum to boys if I’m honest.

I come from a very female dominant family with a scattering of male off spring here and there, so I naturally thought, in my own un scientific way, that I too would only have girls. I remember the disbelief to this day, on being handed my baby after a long and gruelling labour and being told it was a boy.

We don’t have boys in our family, are you sure?

I’d put weight on all over, craved sweet things and family statistics swung heavily in favour of the pink gene. I was sure He was going to be a She.  I wasn’t disappointed, in fact I was secretly pleased. We needed more boys to level things out, I was aiding the blue corner. Go me!

My next baby will be a girl I innocently presumed, none of the ladies in my family have 2 sons.

life as a mum to boys

Turns out I was wrong again, as I welcomed my second beautiful boy to the world. Very wrong. Not only had I broken the mould,  I’d screwed up that tradition and thrown it out the window. I started a trend, my relatives were all having boys too. Get me, the boy mamma trend setter.

“So will you try for a girl?” I was asked on many occasions. I was never quick enough with a witty comeback other than “no, I’m happy with what I’ve got.”

How do you try for  girl anyway?! Should I bathe in glitter and paint my house pink?

life as a mum to 3 boys by mum in a nutshell

Fast forward 10 years and Daz and I decided there was room in our happy little family for another child. Not a girl, a child. Yet this time the questions from well-meaning people came in thick and fast. ” I bet you’re hoping this one’s a girl” to “it would be lovely if you had a girl this time.” 

As the questions and comments got more personal I became more stubborn. I loved being a mum of boys, they were growing up to be kind, gentle, handsome young men. Each day they made me prouder and happier than words can express. I felt safe in a house where Lego lurked in every corner, I enjoyed watching Star Wars on a Sunday afternoon, I could hold my own in a Batman v Spiderman debate. There was nothing I disliked about being a mum to boys.

Ok, so the toilet seat stays up. I regularly trip over skateboards and our home rivals a Lynx deodorant testing zone most mornings. Annoying at most, but never upsetting.

So when Baby R burst into our lives after a quick and painful 2 hours. I felt instant love for this puffy, dark-haired little boy who gazed into my eyes.

Not sadness for the girl I’ll never have.

So here I am, an outnumbered mum to 3 boys, my handsome trio of testosterone,  growing old, safe in the protection of my Teenager, my Tween and Baby R 

 
My Tween, My Baby R, My Teenager
 
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24 Comments

  1. 14th January 2015 / 9:53 pm

    I confess, the thought of having boys really would terrify me. I come from a girl-dominated family too and when I was a girl, really disliked boys. I’m used to teaching them, of course, but having to have them in the home!?!!??! Love your story! Coming from the Monday Parenting pin!x

  2. Emma T
    17th January 2015 / 8:59 pm

    You can’t beat boys. I and a friend were only talking about this today at a party. We both have 1 boy, and were comparing how easy they were compared to the nightmares that our other friends have had with their girls. While I would have liked a girl, mostly to avoid the assumption and probability that a daughter would go into working on the farm vs having a boy, getting a boy (which was likely in our family on both sides), was brilliant and I’ve never once really wished to have a girl.

    • 18th January 2015 / 8:54 am

      I’m very happy with my blue dominated home, I have a couple of nieces which gives me time the girlie things in life to enjoy so I don’t feel I’ve missed out.

  3. Mama, My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows
    26th April 2015 / 7:00 am

    Gorgeous family! Sweet post.

    I’d feel a little out of my depth if we wound up having a girly girl or a girly boy, for that matter. Neither my wife or I have any interest in fashion or make-up etc. But I guess we’ll just deal with it, whatever happens.

    #sundaystars

    • 1st May 2015 / 9:38 pm

      Thank you so much, I think it creeps up and you and you adjust as you go along so I’m sure you’ll be find either way!

  4. Erin @Yorkshiretots
    26th April 2015 / 8:49 am

    What a lovely post and what gorgeous photos of your boys! You clearly all have a lot of fun together! #sundaystars

    • 1st May 2015 / 8:52 pm

      Thank you, it is a very happy house most days. Even when the teenager’s in a grump the rest of us manage to have a giggle.

  5. 26th April 2015 / 11:03 am

    Ali your boys are beautiful! I can’t imagine having three of them, it’s been a bit of a shock to the system having just one after two girls, but I guess you have had much longer to get used to it all. Sounds like you’re doing a sterling job lovely xx

    • 1st May 2015 / 8:51 pm

      Thanks you so much that’s so lovely of you. I think it’s easier having the boys first from what my friends have said! I’ve never known any different, my eldest was a real I’ve wire and I just thought all babies were like him, it wasn’t until his brother came along and I realised they weren’t but it seems my youngest is following in his eldest brother’s lively ways too! exhausting at times but always fun.

  6. 26th April 2015 / 3:44 pm

    I got asked the same annoying question when I was pregnant with the twins “are you hoping for at least 1 girl?” After 2 boys, everyone assumes you’re having another just to have a girl.
    I ended up with twin girls and as lovely that it is that it’s evened our house up, I am so out of my depth with all things girl! It’s a regular occurrence for me to step on Lego or watch back to back Thomas. I’m not looking forward to the arrival of dolls and My Little Pony!

    • 1st May 2015 / 8:49 pm

      That’s so interesting to hear, I’m a Thomas the Tank Engine pro and I guess it’s a little bit of laziness when I’m secretly pleased that I don’t need to get to grips with another toy fad. I’ll just stick with what I know.

  7. 26th April 2015 / 11:48 pm

    I come from a family with lots of girls and when I had a boy it was all a bit strange…especially getting used to the willies!! (well willy, he only has one lol) . I couldn’t imagine it any other way now though 🙂 xx #sundaystars

    • 1st May 2015 / 9:09 pm

      LOL! You’re comment made me chuckle. You have to get used to them as my boys though nothing of stripping off until they were 10/11!

  8. 27th April 2015 / 1:59 pm

    I love this post. Your boys are absolutely gorgeous! I wouldn’t change my 4 boys for the world! xx

  9. 27th April 2015 / 5:09 pm

    My husbands family seems to have gone from pretty much only girls to only boys for the last decade. We had three girls then went on to have two boys ourselves. I’m hoping the male teenage years are much less hormonal and shouty than the female ones were going through now!
    Thanks for linking up with #SundayStars x

    • 1st May 2015 / 3:46 pm

      I’ve only got experience of male hormones and they’re up and down really, good days and bad.

  10. 8th July 2015 / 12:00 am

    Beautiful photos of your beautiful boys. And a life of pee on the seat!

    I am owner of 2 small boys and they are both pretty awesome, bring on the lego, the mud and the boys! Thanks for linking to #effitfriday

    • 9th July 2015 / 9:36 pm

      You’ve got the best out look, if you’re ready for the Lego and mud you’re good to go for the next 10 years at least, then it’s on to games consoles, lynx and skateboards!

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