Teenager unplugged

Teenager unplugged

We don’t live in an area renowned for its surf, the south coast of Devon is more of a sailor’s hot spot, but now and then we get some easy rollers hitting the shores of Sidmouth and with the promenade too busy for skateboarding, Teenager and his friends took to the sea for the 1st surf of the year. surf rollers in Sidmouth, Devon by Mum in a Nutshell It was changeable sunny day but I still had to give a hyperthermia pep talk as despite being protected by his winter wetsuit, the sea is still unbelievably cold. I actually came straight home and searched the internet for some wetsuit boots, he grows so quickly that I’m often caught short of clothing. A day out surfing with the teenager by  Mum in a nutshell I’m reading a fabulous book, How To Unplug Your Child by Liat Hughes Joshi which recognises the screen rich world teenagers live in, but at the same helps you mange their technology with ways to enjoy real life. how to unplugged your child, activities for families to help encourage some screen free time   It’s made me really assess how much time the boys have plugged in and we’re trying to encourage them to get out and about and do more away from the WiFi so I have no problem at all driving Teenager around to meet up with friends for activity fuelled days like these. 1st surf of the year, encouraging the Teenager to get off the Xbox is all the more easier when you live by the sea.  by Mum in a Nutshell However, I’m still in the crux of keeping a watchful, albeit distant, eye on him as I adjust to life with an child on the verge of becoming an adult. It’s still a minefield as to how much freedom we give him and how much protecting he needs. He’s never too bothered when I rein him in a little as he knows I always do it out love and not to mean. None the less, I was still nervous about letting him hit the waves without a beach lifeguard or adult keeping watch so Hubby and I casually dropped by with hot drinks for them all which were a welcome relief from the biting cold water. A five minute surf stop to fill up on hot drinks; h=getting your teenager off the wifi and out in the fresh air 4 hours later and we returned to take home 2 very tired, cold boys (the extra one being Teenager’s best friend who was on a sleep over.) They piled into the car, still in wetsuits that were too difficult to peel off with cold hands, turned the heating up and returned them safe in the comfort of the Xbox after hot showers and roast dinners which began an evening of non stop refuelling to replace the extra energy burnt. While I rinsed out 2 sea soaked wetsuits and worked on the endless food shopping lists that consume my life as a mum to a teenager. In an ever growing technological world, teenagers are hooked up to WiFi more often than not. Trying to get them away from their screens is no mean feat. By Mum in a Nutshell

 

 

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  1. 6th May 2015 / 6:31 am

    What a refreshing post! That sounds like a good book to read as I battle constantly with my 11 year old and screens. I love the idea of ‘unplugging’ them and what better way than to take to the waves. It is a funny time when they become teens but it sounds like you have to right balance.

    • 6th May 2015 / 7:25 am

      Thanks Nikki. It’s a constant battle in our house but I feel such a hypocrite when I’m on the laptop every evening. The books out on public sale 14th May. I thoroughly recommend it.

      • 6th May 2015 / 9:01 am

        It makes you wonder what on earth we did as teenagers doesn’t it!

  2. 6th May 2015 / 9:53 am

    I cant imagine this stage yet but every so often I get a glimpse of what it might be like as my eldest starts to want a little more independence. I like reading posts about teenagers. Thanks for sharing. #MMWBH

  3. 6th May 2015 / 12:37 pm

    We lived in Devon until recently and it was great to see my teenage boy going out with his friends to the beach most weekends. Kept them out of trouble and he loved it.

    • 6th May 2015 / 1:54 pm

      Its so handy having it close by, we don’t have many facilities for them but who needs them with the sea on your door step.

  4. 6th May 2015 / 1:25 pm

    I wish I had more success getting my teen outside. I’m hopeful the warmer weather will help. Great pics

  5. Ashley Beolens
    6th May 2015 / 6:20 pm

    I really need this for my eldest, getting him out of his room is a nightmare sometimes, thankfully the other two enjoy going out exploring nature etc.

    • 6th May 2015 / 6:48 pm

      It’s an on going battle isn’t it, mine would sit up there all day if I let him. It’s only the beach & skateboard that can lure him away.

  6. 7th May 2015 / 12:10 am

    My eldest is 11 and I don’t want to share her with the teenage years just yet. I fear there’s not much I can do about it though. Will just have to ensure to keep the lines of communication open. #MMWBH

  7. christina
    7th May 2015 / 2:11 am

    Gorgeous photos!
    That sounds like a book I would enjoy, we are always talking about that topic and have even posted on it a few times. Kids are missing out on so much of the world while their eyes are glued to a screen.

    • 7th May 2015 / 6:18 am

      I totally agree. I m Keats trying to find ways of encouraging them to get outside. Even if it’s s quick walk down the beach. It’s all about finding the right balance

  8. 7th May 2015 / 12:06 pm

    I try this too. To let my son go out more than watch the TV. But the TV teaches my son some things like numbers and letters. I think its hard to create that balance but you look like you have found a way how to do it =) #sharewithme

  9. Jenny
    8th May 2015 / 10:02 am

    That book sounds great. I will keep note of it as the kids get older. I am so worried I will keep them away from video and computers too much and I think they need it to learn and keep up with technology and the times but also don’t want them to have it it much either. Catch 22 isn’t it. Scared to have teenager. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me #sharewithme

    • 8th May 2015 / 10:31 am

      It’s all about finding the right balance I think and not depriving them too much as they’ll never know what their friends are on about.

    • 12th May 2015 / 10:08 am

      Thanks Mary, it creeps up on you so you’re a lot more prepared than you think you’ll be.

  10. Emma T
    8th May 2015 / 8:36 pm

    Great photo of him from the back.

    Such a fine balance, and sounds like it could be a really helpful book.

  11. 9th May 2015 / 5:16 pm

    Lovely photos Ali, he’s really got the surfers hair hasn’t he?! I bet he’d love surfing in Newquay, I suspect the waves on that coast might worry you a little more though!

    I’m lucky with my two at the moment, as although almost 11 year old has a teenage attitude at times, they are both ridiculously active. They don’t even watch tv. Unless it’ raining, I only really see them for meals at the moment as they’re busy playing outside with their friends 🙂

    Stevie x #iotw

    • 9th May 2015 / 8:35 pm

      They sound like they’ve got the perfect lifestyle. He learnt to surf down in Newquay but I’m not quite ready to let him out there on his own yet! I hope your boys stay active. I’m really not a fan of mine playing the xbox all the time. It’s such an issue in my house.

  12. 11th May 2015 / 9:50 pm

    I might have a look at that book, we nag our 11 year about screens regularly! They do have a habit of taking over, (I could do with unplugging too) #sharethejoy

    • 11th May 2015 / 10:17 pm

      I think it’s probably some we should all do. I’m defiantly guilty of overloading the wifi!

  13. Megan - Truly Madly Kids
    13th May 2015 / 9:29 pm

    Oh my gosh! These photos are beautiful! The third one is stunning – what a beautiful boy you have. Thank you so much for linking up to Image of the Week

  14. 16th May 2015 / 12:31 pm

    Oh this post made me laugh! I thoroughly enjoyed it, and I gave my own teenage son a hypothermia pep talk the other day too as I handed him his very first ever wetsuit! We live at the opposite end of the country to you (waaaaay up north in the Shetland isles) and my eldest and I have just taken up sea kayaking. Our first time out on the sea was last week – and what a blast! Such a great feeling being able to give them screen-free experiences that they actually enjoy. I’d be nervous letting my children out alone in the waves without a buoyancy aid, but one step at a time! #CountryKids

    • 16th May 2015 / 2:28 pm

      I can imagine your pep talk was more called for than mine! I’d love to have a go at sea kayaking but I’m less nervous in the water than out if that makes sense? It’s great that our kids can get out in the sea though and away from screens isn’t it.

  15. 16th May 2015 / 3:37 pm

    It’s great that you’ve managed to peel him away from the screens for a while for a day on the beach. It is difficult knowing how much freedom to give them at different stages of their life but I’m a bit like you, if it pulls them away from the screen watching for and hour or two I’m all for it. Thanks for linking up with me on Country Kids.

    • 16th May 2015 / 7:34 pm

      I’m always trying to get the balance right, it’ll be easier now the weathers better

  16. Michelle Reeves (bodfortea)
    18th May 2015 / 12:12 pm

    Brrrr I’m actually shivering reading this! But what a fab post that conjures up my future for me perfectly 🙂 I wonder how I’ll be able to persuade my two to stay off their screens when I’m glued to my laptop… I guess it’s all about balance. Thanks for linking this up at #sharethejoy x

  17. 20th May 2015 / 12:23 pm

    Great photos. It is so hard to get a balance between screens and getting them out, a real struggle. Looks like he had a great day

    • 20th May 2015 / 2:16 pm

      I’m taking part in an unplugging day on the 28 th to see how we function as a family!

  18. 6th June 2015 / 8:39 pm

    Gorgeous photos! I’m a long way off this stage yet but it’s scary how much technology is relied upon these days. #magicmoments

    • 6th June 2015 / 9:41 pm

      It is isn’t it. I find I’, finding it harder and harder to get some technology free time these days.

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