What’s your mantra? Healthy body – healthy mind is one I try live by these days, being a self employed solo mum, I mentally, physically and financially can’t afford sick days, so I do the utmost I can to keep in tip-top shape. Not so much obsessive ‘my body is a temple’ and all that malarkey health freak stuff, consciously careful is probably the best description of my lifestyle.

Wondering what that means exactly? For me I guess it means balancing out sitting at a desk with trips to the gym and occasional runs, I’m a pescatarian and eat healthy yet happy eat pizza on those days when I’m not in the mood for cooking, and my end of the day treat is a glass of wine, sometimes more if its night out but I always keep 3 days alcohol free.

It’s not a difficult lifestyle to maintain and so far so good, all’s looking pretty ship-shape. But that’s only one side to feeling good, as it’s also about what’s going on mentally. Many years ago, I’m talking like 25 ( crikey, did I really just say that out loud?!) gripped by the doom and gloom of being a teenage goth, my mum bought be a self-help book on positive thinking. While I admit, it probably took a few years to sink in and understand, it did set the path for me being an optimist  and to this day, I’m a huge believer in P.M.A – Positive Mental Attitude.

It’s a stance which has seen me through many a tough moment and was tested to the core in the first few months of my marriage ending. For a while, like a few weeks, I hit rock bottom as reality of failing at the basic task of being married set in and I realised the enormity of raising 3 kids on my own, trying to study, run a business and start divorce proceedings. Overloaded was a word bandied around quite a lot. But stubborn me didn’t want to succumb to the black cloud trying to drag me down so on the suggestions from a friend, I tried some alternative therapies.

I called it my first aid kit and it all started with a belief that it would work.

I try keep onto top of my health by eating well and exercising, as well as taking a holistic approach to my mental well being with a 1st aid kit of vitamins, homeopathy and Bach Flower Remedies Number one in this kit was a bottle of Bach Flower remedies. I’d used Rescue Remedy to get me through my driving test and the kids SAT’s and GCSE’s (them not me, I should add) so reaching for an alternative remedy was nothing new. This time though, I sought out some specific formulas tailored to my state of mind. I needed something to help me balance my emotions and get me back onto my positive outlook on life. Sweet Chestnut was my first choice, 2 drops every few hours with the promise of serenity

 Embrace optimism and peace of mind. The positive potential of Sweet Chestnut is having hope

And while life’s pretty god damn fabulous right now, I just need a little reminder to follow my gut feeling now and then when making decisions. There’s been moments when my heart and head have clashed so those days, when things are a little foggy, Cerato is my go to;

Trust your inner wisdom and don’t doubt your own judgement. The positive potential of Cerato is shown in those who trust their own inner wisdom and follow it.

And finally, it’s not all about my mental wellbeing. I come as a unit, and as any parent knows, your  children’s happiness has a massive effect on your own. So when my son was struggling with some negative thoughts, we tried a couple of drops of White Chestnut in a bottle of water.

Don’t let those repetitive thoughts get in the way. The positive potential of White Chestnut is peace of mind.

Knowing that I’m willing to listen and can offer a gentle solution was the first step in helping him retrain his thoughts. Along with a hope that by the process of osmosis, my PMA will filter through to my little hormone fuelled teens.

This is where a supportive, holistic lifestyle has helped us all with our transition through rocky waters. Rather than waiting until you have to treat something with a ‘top down’  approach, I’d rather the boys and I live a preventative take on life, keeping things in check, looking after our wellbeing by getting outside as much as we can, keeping fit, eating healthily and looking for signs when things are slipping. Sort of a nipping it in the bud stance I guess.

Meaning we’re free to indulge, now and then, with the odd lazy day or, my own personal trait of burning the candle at both ends, without it impacting on our health.

Give it a go, if you’re not already, it’s ace!

How to maintain wellbeing with a holistic approach to healthy body and healthy mind

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This is a collaborative post with Bach Flower Remedies, and they’re available to buy from www.amazon.co.uk

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Upping Your Game Protecting Teenagers Online
One of the biggest leap of faith I have to take while raising teenagers is having the courage to trust them when using the internet. While I can keep an eye on where they go when out and about and for how long (the advantage of living in a village) when it comes to letting them loose online, it’s one place I’m all to aware that they’re one step ahead of me.
Gone are the days where we had rules about only being online when I’m in the same room and choosing / vetting any websites they go on. These days, it’s a fine line between giving them the privacy that all teenagers crave while reminding them of the rules of keeping away from the deep dark web.
As a mum (or dad ) so many scenarios haunt you; from cyber bullying, violence, using and learning bad language and pornography. You here the stats all the time, one study by Kaspersky, the global cyber security company, of 5040 children age 10-15 found that over 2/3’s  had heard bad language, a 1/3 had witnessed violence online and 1/4 seen pornography. Not happy reading for any parent is it?

So that’s my wake up call, I need to up my game and find that balance as those are pretty scary statistics and I’m pretty sure my boys would know how to find anything I’d find worrying! So what am I going to do about it?
First things first, I’m going to have THE CHAT (again) I’m pencilling in a nice, tea time slot or maybe a car journey, yeah, a car journey would be better. Side ways conversations always work well with boys, minimum eye contact and all that. And then, once said chat has been executed and received, I’m going to look at ways to make sure I’m back holding the protective reins once again.
All be it a little slacker, and maybe sneakier than before.
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This is a collaborative post with Kaspersky and a reminder to check your parental controls! 
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