Lost Your Mojo? You Need A Plan!

Lost Your Mojo? You Need A Plan!

I’ve been planning, always a good sign for me but a nervous one for my husband.

Ever since studying for my degree during for which  I had to evidence short term and long term goals, I’ve applied this idea when mapping out my ambitions for family life as well as professional. As a mum I plan our family meals, appointments and holidays. My life is all about lists, even my lists have lists.

But when life got a little hectic recently and I felt I swimming against the tide, a little reminder from Michelle at The Joy Chaser ( you can find her how to prioritise when you’re overwhelmed post here) got me reaching for my planners once again.

Notice I said planners as in plural. I have 2, it’s not gluttony or me succumbing to a hankering for stationary (although it does support that indulgence to a degree) By having 2 planners I can keep personal and professional compartmentalized. A tactic I learnt from a previous profession where I needed to keep all elements of my family and private life separate from anything work related to preserve some sanity & optimism.

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You see Mum in a Nutshell is my profession which takes a big element of planning to keep things on schedule, to stick to deadlines and make sure it’s running at optimum capacity. It’s all too easy to let other things slip though when you’re planning so stringently in another area of your life and that’s where things got a little messy at home. Mainly housework & missed appointments.

So it was back to basics and plan, plan, plan. Not just the week ahead, I needed to go back and work out my short, medium and long-term goals for me, my family and my business. I needed my mojo back!

I have plans, big plans, but it’s the little plans, the foundations of you like, that cement those big plans and if I’m going to aim high then I need to build that road to success.

Everyone needs a destination. Somewhere where you see your self in 1, 5 0r 10 years time. It helps keep you focused and when life gets a little crappy, which it has a tendency to do now and then, going back and revisiting those plans for your destination helps you reboot and get back on track.

It doesn’t have to be huge life changing plans, just a vision for something to aim for. Take little ambitious me for instance. At 24 I was pregnant, not by surprise, it was a planned happy pregnancy and within my plans to be a young mum. What took me by surprise however was the urge to make a better life for myself once my son was born.

I worked in a factory prior to this moment of enlightenment. I hated it, it was boring but at the same time a means to an end to pay my rent and fund my party weekends. Each week I counted down to the weekend, it was like trawling through toffee to the finish line. I wasn’t proud of where I ended up after 5 years of grammar school education and I knew deep down I was wasting opportunities, that I should have gone to university and I should be starting a profession.

So while on maternity leave I rebooted my life and I planned. My destination was a career and so my first short-term and long-term plans were cemented. I needed to study to get to where I wanted and I had to gather experience to travel to the right destination. 4 years studying for an Open University degree later and I was heading in the right direction. It was by no means easy juggling a young family, working and even learning to drive half way through.

But I got there.

And from there I plateaued  I cruised along for 5 more years, slowly loosing that ambition and mojo.

So why am I sharing this with you? Well mainly to give you hope, to let you know it’s never too late. After the late arrival of my third son I took the opportunity to reassess my life.

Was I going in the right direction?

How could I make it better?

What was my destination?

So at 40 I got out my planning hat once again and listed my short-term and long-term goals and in the process, found my mojo once again.

So if you’re still reading this as you’re feeling like life’s got a little monotonous, get planning. Sit down with a pen and paper and work out your destination, how you’ll get there and what you need to do first.

Reboot and take a different path to a bigger better life.

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16 Comments

  1. RachelSwirl
    5th May 2016 / 12:58 am

    Im currently swimming through treacle…
    I trained as a teacher 2001-2004 and got a job in secondary education. Seven years later I was made redundant after having my DS.
    I then worked in adult education (in a prison setting) for 4 years and then had to leave due to mistreatment.
    I now pull pints behind a bar four nights a week…

    I am FED UP of people asking me “When are you going to get a proper job?” It feels so degrading. I enjoy what I do but it isn’t my ideal life choice. If only I could be paid to blog as I LOVE IT. I don’t want to be full time as I want to be around for my kids and where I live is extremely limited in job opportunities.

    So where will I be in 5 years? Well lets just say 5 years ago I never visualised this…

    • 5th May 2016 / 10:31 am

      Oh no, I feel your pain though. I’m just starting to make a living from blogging so don’t give up hope. It’s taken a couple of years of hard slog but is so worth it.

    • 7th May 2016 / 11:38 am

      It sounds like even short term plans would benefit you right now. My first long term plan many years ago was to avoid empty nest feeling as I was investing so much around my children I wondered what on earth is do when they left home. Best of luck x

  2. 6th May 2016 / 12:32 pm

    Oh honey I SO agree with this! Prioritising What Matters is one of the lessons in my new eCourse and I’m passionate about the effect that goal planning and prioritising can have on our positivity and well-being. Thank you so much for the mention and glad it inspired you! xx

  3. 9th May 2016 / 8:14 am

    Totally hearing this, although I’m just not sure what my ‘plans’ are. However, I think you’re point about finding your path in the process may apply just as much to the end result, so I’m going to try the process anyway, even though I’m not sure where I want to be and hope that leads me to the some answers. Thanks! #SharetheJoy

    • 9th May 2016 / 8:42 am

      Best of luck, sometimes just getting there is enough to be your plan. I’m always re assessing mine.

  4. 9th May 2016 / 10:51 am

    I am a planner by nature so I totally get this but I also find sometimes that when I over plan I miss some of the ‘now’ as well so I’m learning to balance this a bit more these days #sharethejoylinky

  5. 9th May 2016 / 12:08 pm

    I think our plans often change and that is when we lose our mono – or at least it is for me! I spent most my teenage years thinking I would be a teacher but then ended up doing a degree in languages and hating academia so much. After uni I struggled to find my path, and felt like I was just holding on until I had a family (my life long dream). But then health issues meant that we had to stop after one child and I had to return to work much sooner than planned and I felt like all my dreams had been washed away. Bye bye mojo! Even writing my first book didn’t bring me joy, despite being something I was passionate about. It has taken me a long time to realise my lack of mojo is due to having no real plans for my life, or rather being terrified of making plans for fear of them all falling through! Only now am I starting to find new ideas forming in my mind, so I shall certainly sit down and make some plans 🙂 it’s great to hear how your plans have changed through the years and helped you move forward in your life #sharethejoy

    • 9th May 2016 / 5:47 pm

      It does sound like you’ve had plans which you’ve achieved so I would celebrate that! I too started out studying to be a teacher then saw how much pressure they faced when working as a TA & it out me right off. I had a few years of no ambition or plans at all which ended up making me really depressed so in back to planning once more. Good luck xx

  6. 9th May 2016 / 12:44 pm

    Well you know I’m going to LOVE this post – and not just because you mentioned my post in it (although thank you so much for that!). I’m a HUGE planner. I have shifted back and forth, over time, between electronic and stationery planners but I’m settled at the moment with my burnt umber A5 Filofax which contains everything I need to do for the quarter. Planning, goal setting and reviewing has been proven to boost our positivity and it is a major part of my Happiness Habits Routine. (In fact, exactly how I do that (along with downloadable planner pages) will be included in my new eCourse – I’m that passionate about it!) Thanks for linking this up at #sharethejoy and good luck with your own plans my friend x

    • 10th May 2016 / 11:11 pm

      I love the sound of you Folifax. I had a mini one at work but never used it to it’s full potential, I think I need to get on your new ecourse. I’m sending my husband your way to see if it helps him too. I realised after reading you post on getting my life back in check when I was feel very overwhelmed was tantamount to me getting my planners out again. I’d completely lost focus.

  7. 9th May 2016 / 7:51 pm

    Oh gosh! I am a planner too, but on the smaller scale. I have recently tried to get a bit more serious about long term goals but its hard for me to pin them down, seeing as I’ve never had an opportunity to chase my dreams before, leading to a dose of apathy. But I am getting there, I firmly believe that without goals we are without purpose and drive. #Sharethejoy

    • 10th May 2016 / 11:07 pm

      I’m so with you on that Alice and it was when I was without goals that I really started to struggle and had no purpose. looking back I was probably being too work focused and should have planned for life out of work to make the apathy subside. I love you analogy.

  8. 9th May 2016 / 9:36 pm

    Taking time out to plan can’t be underrated, you need to give yourself space to think and create and plan. Congratulations on getting your mojo back. Now to put those plans into action. #SharetheJoy

  9. 9th May 2016 / 10:26 pm

    Congratulations on planning your way to making your dreams come true. All the best for the next steps 🙂 (I’m not a planner, all of this sounds so alien to me!)

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