5 reasons why having a brother actually rocks

5 reasons why having a brother actually rocks

To any of you lucky parents with more than one child, you’ll understand my pain at seeing your children fight and bicker. So after spending yet another afternoon refereeing and segregating my sons, I thought I’d show them this battle is only temporary and that having a brother  actually rocks

The insults will be replaced by harmless adult banter. 

Life would be less interesting without someone to insult on a daily basis, in school they call it bullying. At home it’s known as character building. This competitiveness you have now will mean you’ll go out into the big wide world always striving to be the better person. The fight for my attention will be replaced by the urge to impress your boss, you’ll be the perfect employee and make CEO by your mid thirties. When someone calls you a rude word in the pub on a Saturday night, you’ll brush it off. It’s nothing you’ve never heard before. You’ve built up a resilience.

Why bother retaliating when you can be chatting up that beautiful brunette at the bar.

You’ll always have someone who understands why you like to put cheese in your bacon sandwiches. 

Or why brown bananas can never be thrown away and you can’t go to bed on Christmas Eve until you’ve witnessed a tipsy uncle stumble around the back garden with a red light on his head, jingling bells. These things might seem normal to you right now, but someday you’ll realise it’s not what every family does. You may even have to explain it to a future spouse, but your brother will always know where you’re coming from. He’ll share your quirks, he’ll get your back when you need it. In your brother you’ll have a comrade for life.

You’ll have someone who will provide instant playmates to you’re children. 

The thought of being a parent is not something you will be thinking right now, but one day you will and if I’ve done my job right, you’ll be a bloody good one. Hopefully your brother will be one too so your children will have cousins. Just think how much you love spending time with your own cousins right now, they’re your best friends, they make school holidays fun.Without cousins, family gatherings would be boring, listening to adults gossip instead of semi naked trampolining with Elvis the dog. (Maybe you’ll explain to me one day why you boys always found it funny to strip down to your pants, no matter what the season, on Auntie Lynsey’s trampoline?). In your cousins you have diffusion, someone to laugh with about Nanny getting her words wrong and someone who shares the love of the word ‘poo.’ Without your brother, there will be no cousins for your children.

Imagine that.     A life without cousins.

I know you didn’t start it.

But today you weren’t so good at the sneaky punches, I’m sorry I missed the kick off and banished you to your room. It was only when I caught the sneaky smile from your brother while was doing a bloody good impression of a man who’d just had his arm blown off, that I realised I’d got it wrong but you were already in your room and the thought of a possible ceasefire in the living room was far to appealing. I’m not sure you noticed but the next time it happened I gave you the benefit of the doubt and made your brother walk the dog. You’ve learnt about karma in having a brother.

You’ll never get irritated by other people on public transport

I know even the shortest of car journeys can, at times, seem unbearable. That elbows are weapons when you have no where else to hide and the power of the sound of your brother sucking drink through a straw is tantamount to hot knives being inserted in your ear. But all this is building an immunity. An immunity to the annoying man talking loudly on his mobile on the train, to the teenager with his music blaring from his head phones. Other people around you will be squirming in their seats, but no you. Not you, you’re immune.

You endured long hall flights, train journeys and endless holidays to Cornwall and fought through the pain spurned by the threat of “we’ll turn the car around and go home if you don’t stop annoying your brother.”

You’ll look out of the window and count silver cars.

We taught you this game under the guise of distraction and avoid your temptation to liven up the journey by hiding your brother’s Nintendo DS.

Silver cars will be your coping mechanism.

So next time you beg for us to put your brother up for adoption.

You’re anger is only temporary, In a brother, you’ll always have a friend

5 reasons why having a brother rocks. some insightful words when you've had a tough day refereeing your kids. Parenting is tough sometimes but sometimes you need to see the positive

 

49 Comments

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  2. katy allred
    12th March 2015 / 4:16 pm

    Great post, I smiled the whole time while reading it! Have you read Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish?

    • 12th March 2015 / 9:39 pm

      Thank you, no I haven’t but I will now. thanks for recommending it.

  3. Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom
    12th March 2015 / 4:25 pm

    Awww, lovely.

    Yes… they have a playmate for life. That’s a biggie for me. My brother was born after I moved away from home and I wish I had a sibling as I grew up.

    Thanks for sharing and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop.

    Wishing you a lovely day.
    xoxo

    • 12th March 2015 / 9:44 pm

      me too, I’m really close to my siblings so its important to me that my boys have a friend for life, I know its never guaranteed but here’s hoping they’ll grow up liking each other.

  4. 13th March 2015 / 11:29 am

    This is so true. Tell them I said so too. I have a sister and I remember there are fights. But right now in my lowest. The only person I run too albeit online is my sister. She knows me and would stay with me on my darkest hour. I didnt know this before. Only when I am in there. #binkylinky

    • 14th March 2015 / 7:30 am

      I do try and tell them that they will be the best if friends one day, i hope!

  5. 13th March 2015 / 1:43 pm

    Ah – love love love this! My four are best friends, even best friends fall out right? They may bicker sometimes BUT I know they all have each others backs and that is a truly wonderful thing to watch #BinkyLinky

    • 13th March 2015 / 3:58 pm

      My guys think I’m bonkers when I tell them my sister is my best friend, I don’t think they realise yet how special & lucky they are to have a sibling. Thanks for your lovely comment.

  6. Multicultural Motherhoood
    13th March 2015 / 9:23 pm

    Lovely post. My 2 young children are always bickering but are the best of friends too 🙂

  7. Ashley @ When the Dust Settles
    14th March 2015 / 9:59 am

    what a great post, my boys argue all the time but I know if they needed each other they would be there in a shot (and they would both willingly kill for their little sister).

    Oh and I love the picture you created of their uncle lol

    • 15th March 2015 / 8:11 pm

      Thank you, it’s funny how they regroup to stick up for each other, I remember doing that for my sister but her annoying me the rest of the time.

  8. 14th March 2015 / 2:10 pm

    Love this post!! And so beautiful. I have older brothers they are very close but not so much with me. It’s a shame because would love to have someone to support with. That being said my two boys are very close so whilst reading this I completely thought of them. #bigfatlinky

    • 15th March 2015 / 8:10 pm

      I have 2 older boys and then a big gap so I don’t think my youngest will have the relationship they have but they do adore him and he adores them. I feel bad he’ll never have someone to bicker and fight with!

  9. Lindsey
    14th March 2015 / 6:37 pm

    Me and my sister always used to bicker growing up and even in our teens we were two very different people and weren’t very close. Now she’s my best friend, we do everything together and she understands me like no-one else! You do create a bond growing up that you don’t even realise until you are ‘grown up’ yourself!

    • 15th March 2015 / 8:07 pm

      My relationship with my sister was like that growing up, it didn’t help that she was so perfect and never did any thing wrong where I was the naughty one bu we’re best friends now along with our little brother who I still baby now.

  10. Jeff Page (aka Hectic-Dad)
    14th March 2015 / 9:37 pm

    What a great post! Having grown up with one sister, it was quite a culture shock to marry someone with nine siblings. We always wanted a “big” family…but had to define where “big” started. We ended up with eight kids…and we’re definitely “big”. Elbows thrown on car trips, jockeying for seats on airplanes, and throwing food to (and often at) each other at meals were all part of the process of our family growing.

    Now, as over half of them have moved away we relish the times when we get together for holidays. Other people don’t understand, but our kids have a grand time together. The house is rocking, conversations are far-ranging, and all the kids have come to appreciate each other. Well, at least half the kids appreciate the other half. We’re getting there.

    I’ve shared your post with all of them, so if you see a spike in traffic…it’s just the Hectic Family checking in. LOL

    Well done, thanks for sharing on the #BigFatLinky. Glad to discover your blog!

    • 15th March 2015 / 8:05 pm

      Wow, 8 kids, how fab. I’d love to have had more but life and jobs got in the way. I have 3 siblings and we’re very close so I just wanted to emphasise to my guys how important their relationship is. Thank you so much for sharing, I’m so touched you can relate to it.

  11. 14th March 2015 / 9:47 pm

    Such a lovely post and one that I can relate to! I hate it when our twins argue, but I know it’s only temporary! Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

    • 15th March 2015 / 8:01 pm

      Thanks Emily, I know its a normal part of growing up, I just need to keep reminding them they have a special bond and are lucky to have a sibling.

  12. Michelle Reeves (bodfortea)
    16th March 2015 / 6:37 am

    Oh how I needed this today after yet another weekend of my two little ones bickering and the protestations of my eldest “why do I have to have an annoying little brother?!” Pinning and saving for the day when she can read and understand this for herself! Thanks so much for linking up at #sharethejoy x

    • 16th March 2015 / 6:56 am

      You’re very welcome and thanks so much for your lovely comment. It was written after an equally stressful day!

  13. 16th March 2015 / 9:27 am

    Ahh what a great post turning it all on its head. My kids bicker and wind each other up too and I try to hold onto how much fun they will have together in the future. Mich x

    • 16th March 2015 / 11:03 am

      I’m trying to get them to see it from an adult perspective but to them that’s so far off!

  14. Honest Mum
    16th March 2015 / 11:35 am

    Really relate to this, my boys are either in love with one another or can’t stop fighting. It’s exhausting! Gorgeous pictures! #sharethejoylinky

    • 16th March 2015 / 7:37 pm

      It’s sunshine and showers here but I have to say we’re on a good one this week!

  15. 16th March 2015 / 12:43 pm

    Oh this is spot on! My two have started the bickering and I don’t foresee it getting any easier… Thanks for sharing 🙂

    • 16th March 2015 / 7:31 pm

      I know it’s just normal sibling behaviour, it’s just hard to listen to sometimes.

  16. JoyandPops
    16th March 2015 / 2:07 pm

    This is so lovely!
    I have two daughters and they argue like crazy – at ages 7 and 2 most of those arguments involve which teddy they both want (serious teddy wars at our house!). i know in the years to come those arguments will have broader subjects.
    I hope your sons become the very best of grown up friends, just as I hope for my girls!
    Xx
    #sharethejoy

    • 16th March 2015 / 2:11 pm

      So do I. I remember fighting with my sister over our ‘babies’ we’re the best of friends now so keep hoping.

  17. 16th March 2015 / 8:36 pm

    I love this post – so very true. I remember the fights I had with my twin sister and we are so close now. I have eight siblings and yes there were some interesting moments growing up but I love spending time with them now and having that shared family history is such a wonderful thing. I love the point you made about cousins too – I love seeing my girls playing with their cousins.

    • 17th March 2015 / 8:29 pm

      The shared family history is such a good point, I love reminiscing with my siblings and cousins about things from the past, you’re so lucky having 8!

  18. 18th March 2015 / 10:11 am

    Fab post, and one that took me right back to my childhood and the bickering that must have surely driven our parents mad. But you’re right having a sibling sets you up for lots of life’s lessons #sharethejoy

    • 18th March 2015 / 2:46 pm

      I see a lot of my boy’s bickering ways are similar to my and my sister’s which is probably why my mum doesn’t have much sympathy for me!

  19. 20th March 2015 / 6:55 pm

    Love, love, love this post. My boys are still quite young, 7 and 4 but have a very strong love hate relationship. They just can’t leave each other alone. I love the part about them being good Dads, it’s the one thing that I really want for mine x

    • 20th March 2015 / 8:18 pm

      Awwww, thanks so much, you have age gaps nearly similar to mine which is prime love/hate territory!

  20. 21st March 2015 / 9:57 am

    What an amazing post, I love it! Siblings can be so annoying, I remember telling my brother the sound of his breathing annoyed me! But we are the best of friends now that we are older.

    And that deck chair photo is amazing!

    • 22nd March 2015 / 12:54 pm

      Yes. we’ve been there with teenager getting irritated by tween’s breathing. bit worrying really!

  21. Cait Fitz @ My Little Poppies
    25th March 2015 / 9:41 pm

    Love this! Siblings are the best, except when they’re the pits 🙂

  22. 10th October 2015 / 8:19 am

    My daughter is 3 and my son is 18 months and they’ve recently started fighting it’s not nice to see them upset but I know as they get older it will stop and they will become the best of friends.

    • 10th October 2015 / 9:12 am

      It’s so hard isn’t it. Mine seem to be ok at the moment but thats because they’re spending more time in their rooms.

  23. morna
    11th October 2015 / 8:31 am

    brilliant! My girls come close to murdering each other sometimes but I know they love each other deep (sometimes really deep) down. I really hope my sisters does her duty and produces some cousins though….,.#sundaystars

    • 11th October 2015 / 9:18 pm

      Cousins are ace, my guys and my niece & nephews are fab mates and I hope they always are

  24. Claire @ Life on Wallace
    11th October 2015 / 10:18 am

    I have three sons so your post really resonated with me! Thank you. Visiting from #sundaysstars

  25. 15th October 2015 / 11:09 pm

    Awwww, what a lovely post. I am sure your sons will really appreciate having siblings when they are older. I used to fight likes cats and dogs with my brothers. But now we all get on so well. And I love it when all the cousins get together to play. It is the cutest. My nieces actually taught Little Miss H how to walk. Thanks for linking up such a fab post to #SundaysStars. Hugs Mrs H xxxxx

    • 16th October 2015 / 2:23 pm

      How fab of her cousins, the younger ones do get so much more developmental help from being the littlest don’t they.

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