So many events have gone on this week which have pulled my opinions and thoughts in all directions, and while I’ve taken the time to listen to each side, there really only one place for me to be and that’s sitting on the fence.
And before you ask, it’s not as uncomfortable as you’d think.
I’ve not always been a fence sitter, quite the opposite in fact. My teenage years were some of my most opinionated ever, but one thing which came with the wisdom of age and hind-site was the ability to take myself away from all the hype and weigh up both sides of the story.
A knack of biting my tongue and letting those with stronger opinions say their bit, without a fear of me judging or implying they were right or wrong. Because in my little mind, there is always a place for those who are willing to take them selves out if the equation and observe from a distance, weighing up the pros and cons, wrongs and right and take their time in seeing how things should or shouldn’t be.
Please don’t get me wrong, this isn’t about me waving the white flag and championing a world of peace,
make love, not war, lets all live in harmony
Aside from being an awesome, kick ass idea, the reality is that the world does needs people who feel strong enough to debate their side, make a stand for change. Society feeds off those with enough information to share, to help the undecided.
That’s great, it truly is.
But what I don’t want, is to be party to strongly worded arguments, anger, hatred and finger-pointing.
Where lies and accusations are fired to help a cause.
Because while you’re over here, sitting on your fence, keeping a dignified silence, you get a good view of the ugly side of life unfolding before your eyes. And being the fence sitter gives you the opportunity to help diffuse that anger bubbling up around you. The negotiator and pacifier in the proverbial shit storm brewing.
As sometimes, just sometimes, it’s with this ability to stand back and observe both sides that you’re truly able to see what should be happening for the best.
So if I’m ever quiet, or missing at a time when everyone else has a lot to say
You’ll find me sitting, over here, on my, safe, splinter-free fence.