Time To Fess Up How I Chose My Boy Names

Time To Fess Up How I Chose My Boy Names

I’m always intrigued as to how people choose their children’s names, I put a huge amount of thought in my choice of baby boy names (which I always found harder than girls. Not great when you’ve had to do it 3 times!) Having such a traditional name myself, I always fancied something a little different, something which had a meaning and one they wouldn’t share with other children.

When pregnant with my first son, Jordi, I envisioned a surfy, cool dude. A kind of laid back, carefree sort of boy. So chose a name inspired by an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer and cemented by a football player. (It was nearly 17 years ago, age really did define my choices)   .  Coupled with a middle name poached from my dad, he had the choice of a more conventional one should he so wish. It couldn’t have been more fitting as the hair grew longer and skateboarding and surfing became his love. Almost as if I’d glanced into the future.

how did you choose you baby boys name?

Then second time round I kept coming back to one of my all time favourites. A family name already belonging to an American relative. Completely unusual to the unknowing ear but utterly apparent to anyone who knew my grandmother’s maiden name. It was going to be Kynan and nothing else, a tribute to my mum’s family and following a tradition to share names with our relies across the pond. Again, I gave him a slightly more known middle name, this time with a nod to my dad’s middle name. I’d lost my maiden name so I felt I needed to keep a little of my dad somewhere.

how did you choose you baby boy name?

So I guess the million dollar question is “do my boys like their unusual names?” after all, they’re stuck with them. And the answer is yes and no. Fact of the matter is, no matter how hard you think things through you can never guarantee to getting it right. Years of having to answer to various names as teachers struggled to remember them, then loving the fact that they were the only ones in the school with those names.

Which takes me right up to where I was some 2 or so years ago, right back to choosing baby names. Do I go traditional this time being older and wiser? Or should I stick with the unconventional? I’ve started something I shouldn’t really stop. But that’s the most difficult thing when you’re choosing names 2nd, 3rd or what ever time around. Really you’ve got to keep going, siblings will find any reason to throw a ‘why did you do this to me’ stick about. I did it once or twice as I yearned to be called something more way-out, forever envious of the Psyche who sat mysteriously with her mysterious and unspellable name at the end the table in my media studies lessons. While I, Alison, sat within poking distance of Nicola, Marie and Brian.

But then I thought, it just as name, and as long as he can spell it, I can say it and my family don’t scoff at it. I’ll just go with something I like. Something which makes me smile when I say it out loud, a name which doesn’t define him and leaves the book open to follow what ever route into the world he should take.

My bonkers, happy little Ronnie.

So tell me, how did you choose your children’s names? Was it a joint decision, names in a hat or did you name them after someone famous? I was named after Ali McGraw, apparently.

Not too bad a namesake I guess.

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15 Comments

  1. 10th October 2016 / 8:03 pm

    It’s funny how well the names seem to suit the boys! 🙂 I wonder do people kind of grow into their names? I chose unusual names for my girls, Síomha and Iseult so they know all about people not being able to pronounce them. I always feel like they will thank me in later life 🙂

  2. 10th October 2016 / 9:34 pm

    It is such a hard decision and we struggled with boys names as well – and also only had boys lol! We had two picked out, but when they were born one just didn’t seem to fit if that makes sense. So we went back to the drawing board and named him, 24 hours later! x

  3. 11th October 2016 / 12:23 pm

    I do love a good unusual name and I love finding out how or why it was chosen, I happen to love your choices x

  4. 11th October 2016 / 3:11 pm

    Love your choices, always intriguing to find out how people chose names for their kids.

  5. 11th October 2016 / 10:03 pm

    I think your boys names are all lovely and I love the stories behind them. I just knew Grace was going to be Grace from pretty much day one. I didn’t like any of the boy choices I had so thankfully didn’t have to worry about that. If we have a boy, Ross is adamant with his choice – it is quite unusual – but I am coming round to it and really like it now! x

  6. 12th October 2016 / 11:06 am

    We trawled the internet for hours looking for names. We didn’t pick any from our family but we are really happy with them. Love your boys names x

  7. 14th October 2016 / 11:05 am

    Oh God, naming children has to be one of the toughest jobs ever! I love the names you chose. We didn’t have ANY boys names at all for any of ours – just as well they were all girls really. We chose unusual but not way out, and we stuck with traditional spellings. Then our middle one turns up at the tiny village school, only to find someone with the same name. Never mind! In one year of only four girls, our school had three all with the same name, so I’m glad we went with something a bit different for all of them. One of them has a name for which she could easily be known just by her first name for the rest of her life. She’s our very own Madonna!

  8. 14th October 2016 / 4:11 pm

    I learnt early on not to share the names I had in store for my boys. My first choice Reuben was met with a lot of ‘I didn’t you were Jewish!’ (wer’re not) and for baby #2 I told a friend that I was planning on calling him Barnaby to which she spat out her tea screeching ‘Oh My God, you’re joking?!’ We are still friends and I tease her about it now! Happily both boys love their names.

  9. 14th October 2016 / 9:39 pm

    It’s funny how the names suit! Love the names, so distinguishable! We don’t have kids and aren’t at the planning stage yet, but I just know it’ll be so hard. Where do you even start?!

  10. 14th October 2016 / 11:53 pm

    I found choosing boys names easy….but I had two girls ? we went through the alphabet and voted for our favourite name start go with each letter.

  11. 15th October 2016 / 10:25 am

    My child’s name might or might not be inspired by a favourite TV Show. I mean, I loved it too, and I loved the meaning. But I definitely wouldn’t have come up with it without that inspiration.

  12. 15th October 2016 / 2:34 pm

    Great post!

  13. 16th October 2016 / 1:52 pm

    It’s always interesting to wonder if children grow into their names and if they would have turned out differently had they been called something else!

  14. 17th October 2016 / 9:45 pm

    As someone with a fairly unusual name myself – I too loved (and still love) generally being the only Colette in the room. But I do get sick of having to spell it!

  15. 17th October 2016 / 11:24 pm

    I also have three boys and found it more difficult to choose boys’ names than girls’. We have a Louis – which everyone loved, a Rowan – which received mixed reactions, and a brand new Eric – which has had more pulled faces from people than either of the other two combined! I don’t care though – and if Eric cares when he grows up he has 2 other names to choose from.

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