They’ll need socialising!
How can you teach them everything?
What about when they have to go into the big bad world?
I was in the throes of one of those lightbulb moments, the ones you get when you realise that you don’t have to follow the crowds. After all, we live in a democratic society where freedom of speech is a staunch British value within the ethos of our daily lives. And it struck me, I have a choice. Do I have to send my child to school or is home schooling an option?
My littlest is years off starting school but I’m all too familiar with the fact that time flies by so quickly. One minutes you’re queuing up in Clarks to get those first tiddly-tiny school shoes, the next you’re waving them off as they fly out the door to catch the school bus mumbling a begrudging “bye Mum.” without so much as a backward glance.
Triggering heart pangs of grief and regret as you recall the hugs and tears they once had as they clung onto to you, not wanting to go to school.
And it’s those moments I’m dreading.
I have two older boys who are at the stage where they would rather be with their friends 24/7. Where school is the sanctuary from the separation they feel from their peers at home (and my chore nagging no doubt.) But my littlest has a whole school experience ahead of him and if I’m honest, it’s not a phase I’m in any hurry to step into.
There were so many times when my boys didn’t like school though. My tween was very open about it, for teenager it was seen in less obvious ways; chewing nails, tears at bed time (both of us), his self-esteem rock bottom and just a general feeling of finding life so very hard. He had very borderline sensory issues which made sitting still and holding a pencil difficult. All things which were fundamental in his learning.
He still has glimmers of these mini struggles but self-taught coping mechanisms and acceptance, as well as a love of being a secondary school meant he’s got by. But for both my boys there were times when I just wanted to defy the norm and teach them myself, and to opt for a life of homeschooling.
I’ve been reading a fellow bloggers experience of taking her daughter out of mainstream and homeschooling, and there is no doubt that Renee has done the best for her child but what really struck me wasn’t her words but that of Polly’s
“I get peace and quiet, but school was too noisy for me. I really like spelling tests”
Don’t get me wrong. It’s courses for horses and having worked in a school (and loved it, I should add) as well as having two teachers in the family, I am by no means anti school, plus both my older two are thriving in secondary. And that’s what throws me. They’re summer born babies, just like my toddler, and seemed to be forever playing catch up both mentally and educationally. The pressure of SATS really took their toll and they endless fears of failure became a constant source of bedtime counselling sessions.
So as I ponder over past school experience and throw in the words of Renee and Polly. I’m an older, wiser and more confident mum when it comes to making decisions for the future of my littlest and last child, so I’m left with the question;
What reasons should you home school and do I have one?
Many thanks to Mummy Tries for inspiring me to write this post.