What The Early Days As A Single Mum Feels Like

What The Early Days As A Single Mum Feels Like

Right, I’m getting the hang of this single parenting malarky. Sort of. So far so good, it’s not actually been as horrendous as I envisioned. While it’s now about being sole nagger, making sure I’ve got all angles covered and being one step ahead and in control of EVERYTHING. But 16 years of dual parenting has taught me a trick or two. And my children are amazing which helps.

Sundays are the hardest by far. Bloody families everywhere. I’m working at ignoring the 2.4’s and convinced myself you never knows what’s going on behind closed doors. They could be painting the perfect public family image while everything’s on show.  Not that I wish for everyone to be living in matrimonial discord and unrest, but it helps when that little thought pops into your head that everyone has the perfect family set up right now apart from you.

But I refuse to hide away and protect my self from that side of life. Sure it’s a challenge but I’m up for it. Sundays are MY day with my boys, the days we get to forget about work, get out and have fun and to embrace this new phase of our lives. I find if I look happy, smile more then I feel happy and the boys don’t worry.


Lie in’s are non existent. I’ve always been an early to bed and early to rise sort of gal, prior to the days of having to spend every evening working.  So it’s not a complete sacrifice, but it’s funny how you always want something you can’t have. Right now it’s a long lazy morning in bed knowing the kids are fed, entertained and not hanging out of the windows or harassing the dog.

Ditto for baths, God that makes me sound lazy! But what I’d do for an hour locked away in a hot bubble bath, Paolo Nutini blaring and no fear of the toddler trying to climb in with me. Yeah, baths, probably even more so, that’s what I miss right now.

But I know it’s not forever, and during these early days of being a single mum I’m just reminding me of that very fact. My long baths and lie in WILL return, I’ll get use to the Sundays and the families I’m sharing it with.  And hopefully my troop won’t be feeling they’re missing out on too much either.

Early days of any sort of change are always the trickiest by far. But with my positive head on, there are good things; the extra wardrobe space being one of them.

I just need the bank balance now to fill it!

(If you’re wondering what on earth I’m on about, read this post )

Status update. There’s something you should probably know.

A fabulous quote for anyone at a low point in their life, divorce, separation or break ups can be hard but remembering this helps enormously

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10 Comments

  1. Claire
    18th September 2016 / 7:45 pm

    Totally agree. Holidays are hard but with family and friends it gets easier. In my second year of single parenting and my biggest lesson learnt is just do it go places enjoy the children and make memories.

    • 29th October 2016 / 9:52 am

      thats so true, I’m pushing myself out of my comfort zone as trying to make my days as fun as possible

  2. 18th September 2016 / 8:17 pm

    I’m getting used to single parenting my toddlers too. Still in limbo because move and then job need to be sorted out, but the actual parenting alone is okay. Lots to do, but then I did look after them every day anyway, so it’s really just doing every bed and bath time alone that’s a big change. And, yes, no lie ins.

    • 29th October 2016 / 9:53 am

      it’s the limbo feeling which is hard isn’t it. Not knowing what’s happening with my house and car is really hard.

  3. 29th September 2016 / 9:04 pm

    It must be such a huge change to get used to. But it sounds like you are doing brilliantly. And you obviously have a really positive attitude. Keep going lovely. Hugs Lucy xxxx

    • 29th October 2016 / 9:55 am

      thanks Lucy, having a positive mindset is so important to me right now.

  4. 29th September 2016 / 9:07 pm

    I used to find sundays the hardest, worse when my son was at his Dads and I was all alone and everyone was busy with their families. It did get easier though, it just took us a while to get into a routine and by the time my second husband came along I was actually really happy just my son and I, it was a huge change to become a little family again. I wouldn’t change those years just my son and I for anything. xx

    • 29th October 2016 / 9:57 am

      I’m glad you understand that Sunday thing, I wasn’t sure if I was being precious. I’m trying to make those days out of just the boys and I really memorable.

  5. 30th September 2016 / 9:26 pm

    Aw I love how you are being so positive and embracing spending the time with your boys. I hope you get time in the bath soon though, best way to unwind 😉 X

    • 29th October 2016 / 9:58 am

      I did manage a hot bath last week! Lasted all of 10 minutes and I got bored so not hankering for it so much anymore

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